How to Give a Great Blowjob

Men jest that there’s no such thing as a bad blowjob.

But how do you give a great blowjob?

Top Tip number 1 –

You have to want to give a blowjob.

Even if you aren’t highly skilled or practiced at oral sex, if you don’t want to be there, it’s not going to be good, and the recipient will feel as uncomfortable as you do.

Cocks are not like socks, one size does not fit all. They come in all shapes and sizes and varying degrees of sensitivity.

A circumcised penis will differ in sensitivity to an uncircumcised one, some are fleshier than others, some get harder than others.

It also depends if the blowjob is part of foreplay or the main action, driving to climax.

Here are some pointers:

• A blowjob is more than just his cock in your mouth.

Start slowly. Undressing him is sexy; undo the belt/unzip the trousers. Feel the cock as you go, giving it a squeeze, revelling in each stage of the reveal. Kiss his stomach, chest, thighs, hips. Make him hungry for you, teasing him, he will want you even more. Use breath around the cock, with your mouth close but not going there yet.

• Kiss his cock, without enveloping it in your mouth.

 

• A dry mouth is not good for sex, oral or otherwise, but often unavoidable in the excitement of the moment. [Xerostomia can be a symptom of arousal]  Try and generate saliva by moving your tongue inside your mouth, better still grab a sip of water.

• Lick the shaft, from the base up, cupping the balls with your hand – you will quickly gage if he has a very sensitive scrotum and doesn’t enjoy this, or if he likes his balls cajoled.

• Depending on the position you are in, make eye contact with him.

 

• Use the tip of the tongue, to circle the ridge just under the head [Frenulum], a harder tongue action usually works better.

 

• Depending on cock size envelop the cock in your mouth, giving the head a wide birth. The Head and Frenulum are the most sensitive parts of the penis, so it can add pleasure to make him wait by avoiding the area.

 

• If you have managed to avoid much contact to the head [no contact is very unlikely] now is the moment. Pursing your lips over the head, cajoling the tip of the tongue in the urethra opening.

 

• Suck with intent; the majority of men prefer and really enjoy a hard sucking action, but don’t go in for the kill in case he has a more sensitive penis.

• Keep contact with his body, using your hands on his thighs, chest, nipples. Link your hands in his if you can reach them.

 

• The perineum is often an erogenous zone for men, feel this out with your tongue or fingers. Anal stimulation can make some men cum quickly, while others don’t enjoy this.

 

• Let his cock turn you on. Making sounds of enjoyment will add to his pleasure. Play with yourself if you can manage a hand free.

 

• Now it’s time to get a rhythm going.

The majority of men derive intense pleasure from a continuous rhythmic action that starts slowly and speeds up. Enveloping as much of the cock as possible, as deep as your mouth and throat allow. Stay on this action for a while, so his excitement builds. If you are simultaneously playing with yourself, your own rhythm can set the pace for your mouth.

 

• The truth is, medium to small penis’s are the easiest to suck, as your teeth won’t get in the way and you will be able to encase most of the shaft.

But don’t let a large cock intimidate you. Be hungry for it, and keep up the rhythmic action; as you relax, you will be able to take in more as you go. If the penis is very big and you find you are only managing to cover a small section of his cock with your mouth, you can close your hand around the base, the part not getting the wetness of your mouth. The man will indicate if he doesn’t like this, some men don’t. If he moves your hand away, you’ll know.

• You can breathe through your nose and mouth, the air on the cock is a sensual addition.

 

• We all have gag reflexes and the deeper you go, the more likely the gag will happen.

It can be sexy when the throat constricts over the cock, so don’t panic. If you hum a low note your throat opens, but don’t be attempting deep throat until you are comfortable or can be guided through this.

• If this is foreplay, vary the speed, play with the balls, even putting them in your mouth. You can put the cock on the one side of your teeth. Don’t bite, very few men enjoy this.

In short relish the cock, tantalize him, but keep your teeth out of it. Use your tongue on the cock while your mouth is enveloped around it, this all adds to the playfulness and sensations.

• There are many different positions to be in when giving a blowjob, and some are better for deeper penetration while others are good for dominant or submissive play. Most men enjoy both – he can hold your head or hair using it to guide speed which is super sexy for both parties; pinning his arms down and taking control is equally as exciting.

 

• If this is a blowjob designed to make the man cum, a consistent rhythm and speed is important.

Some men cum faster than others, and if you are battling with a tired mouth, you can take a breather and use your hand. If this is not strictly a mouth only exercise, but penetration is not on the cards, rubbing your clitoris on the shaft of the penis, so you cum, also allows your jaw a breather and adds to his pleasure.

 

• Don’t feel you have to finish in record time. Allow him to build slowly to climax.

 

• To swallow or not to swallow. It’s a question of personal preference.

You can move your mouth away and let him cum in your hand or onto his stomach, your stomach, a facial [where he cums on your face], so you avoid the swallow dilemma. If he does cum in your mouth you can discreetly dispose of it into a tissue/cloth etc. Most men think nothing of this. The sexy thing about swallowing is that his cock can remain in your mouth until his orgasm has totally finished. Be careful of too much mouth action then, as most men experience extreme sensitivity after ejaculating, but at least your mouth keeps the cock warm as he comes down from the climax.

• Communication is important. Not necessarily during the blowjob, but before or after.

You can make it a fun conversation as opposed to a do’s and don’ts list. Getting the answers to his preferences can be sexy and perfecting the blowjob is part of the fun.

But when all is said and done, I come back to my Top Tip – you have to want to pleasure the guy orally, so show up with enthusiasm. There are hundreds of ways to have fun with a partner, but if you choose to make blowjobs one of them…make it fun and do the best… job you can.